All relationships, irrespective of what kind they are are there to help you heal. It might not feel like it at the time but if you look closely enough you will see that each person in that relationship has 100% responsibility of creating the situation that they find themselves in.
Once you accept responsibility for your 100% share you will see that your share is showing you what parts of your history you are replaying in that relationship and probably you’re unaware until you stop and take a look.
I am realising that I’m also 100% responsible for my part in a current situation. I am bringing childhood pain along for the ride. Which means that I am also projecting my issues onto the other person. It is not their fault that I bring this with me, and yet I now know that I’m 100% responsible for my actions. Just like they are 100% responsible for their actions in co-creating this situation too.
so what to do about it? ask the following two questions:
1 - How am I creating this conflict?
2 - How can I give and receive more positive energy?
Now that I am accepting my 100% I can also stop projecting and hopefully stop co-creating. Which means I can bring freedom and space and love (lots of!) to a situation where there was previously more drama than I wanted (or needed).
tell me if this resonates with you too - leave me some feedback or comments :)